Cody Shimko: i would say if she doesn't clean her room she shouldn't be able to go, and cleaning doesn't mean shoving everything under the bed or into the closet. (I say this because i used to try to do that when my parents told me to clean my room)Also about the school thing, is it only that subject or is it in general?if it's just that class i would say get her to see if she can get some extra credit or make up work to bring her grade upif it's in general, then give her a reasonable deadline by when she needs to bring her grades up and if she doesn't, start taking her privileges away. Also something the offered at my school was weeklies and dailys. when i was doing really bad in school i was on Dailys and what it is is a paper that each teacher from each class has to sign letting my parents know how I did in class that day, if I had homework, upcoming tests, what the grade on my test was, if I turned in my homework etc.Until my grades got better i had to be on dailys an! d then moved on to weeklys which is the same thing except it was only on fridays that i had to get it signed.Consequences were if i didn't bring my daily home, or if it wasn't filled out by all my teachers, I would get something taken away, my phone or computer privelages, if i kept doing this i wouldn't be able to go out the whole weekend, same applied hopes this help you outFYI i did a lot better after this in school...Show more
Ardell Luy: I would tell her no. If she is failing at school and not handing in assignments, surely to realize she is doing wrong she needs to be punished. :)
Delora Struzzi: She should DEFINITELY not go. I'm sorry but, she is out of control! She should be grounded til she gets her grades back on track! No more friends over until she can be honest. AND NO MORE FOOD IN HER ROOM! Her friends can go without her. Good Luck! Remember YOU ARE THE PARENT!
Serena Doak: You shouldn't let her go, or you'll be setting a horrible example. S! he will know in the future that your threats will not mean any! thing. It's best to get ahead of this problem by punishing her now rather then waiting to do it later.
Jene Licausi: I would approach it by explaining that going to an amusement park with her friends is a privilege, and also that involving you in transporting her friends to the park is, in essence, asking you to do her and her friends a favor.Explain that cleaning her room and keeping it clean, even if it hasn't been an expectation before, will be from now on. Tell her she's 16 years old and there needs to be a maturity on her part to match that age.Tell her that the maturity also involves finishing homework on time and getting correspondence meant for you from her school TO you.You have to stick to your guns. Inconsistency only makes matters worse.It's hard raising a teenager. Lots of us can't recall the difficulties we faced at 16, or we downplay the importance of them since, as we've aged, they seem more trivial than we remember them at the age we were experienci! ng them.Teenage brains aren't finished developing yet, make no mistake about it. They don't always make decisions based on facts and they engage in more risky behavior.You may ask yourself again and again, "what was she thinking?" when her behavior doesn't make sense to you. This is because they process information differently than adults and act on a more emotionally motivated conclusion.Show her respect. Lay out the rules explain the consequences (not too harsh) and stick to them. Always make sure she knows you love her no matter what. And that it's because you love her that you make decisions involving her that she may not understand, but that she probably will in the future. Her safety has to be a priority.Best of luck....Show more
Dannie Briseno: Sounds like she's been lying to you, has an F, and hasn't been listening to you. Also, that room sounds horrid. If I were you, I wouldn't let her go. Unless she could pull a magic trick and get her grades up (or wo! rk on it) and clean... But lying? I don't think she deserves to go anyw! here for that.
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